Her fight for life - by Lujain Asad

This time i will not be sharing my words, but the words of an amazing person who existed in my life to influence and motivate me. Not only a sister, but a role model, friend and an inspiration. A great example to the deepness and the strength of the free Arabian women, a result of our beautiful deserts, despite her young age, i foresee her bright future upon her destiny. I will speak no more for this time i am here to listen to her perspective. I hope you enjoy it as much as i did: 
Her fight for Life - By Lujain Asad

“Life isn’t fair”. Now that’s a phrase we’ve all heard an infinite number of times. My question is: Is it supposed to be? Allow me to answer this naïve question of mine.It’s not and never will it be; we just fail to accept this disappointing fact constantly.

Accepting the injustices of life may seem frail, or in other words, surrendering and taking the easy way out. But believe you me it’s the biggest, most immense battle you’ll ever take part in. Even though the words fight, battle and war may appear hostile and barbaric; they’re actually very appropriate and will be used repeatedly throughout this piece.

The so-called warrior within me has been implanted, nurtured and has matured in coexistence with my physical and mental growth. This spirit is attributed to and sustained by the most influential and inspirational individuals in my life, my family. I’ve observed it in the courageous mother that fights for her rights in professionalism and equality on a daily basis; a dependable father who has always fought to provide his household with an upbringing and a life that’s at an opposite pole to his own; affectionate and devoted siblings that fight for contentment and survival in an unkind surrounding; family members that fight for the family’s integrity, safety and subsistence. So the question that lies before me is:What’s my battle? What am I fighting for? Simply, I’m no different from any other twenty one year old fighting for their existence and struggling to develop spiritually, intellectually and physically in order to become whole.

For over a decade now, I’ve been searching for the justice of life, and trust me when I tell you it has been one heck of a battle. Although I’ve got to admit my failure, for I have willingly surrendered to my enemy, and this to my surprise brought me nothing but relief and satisfaction, eventually. As a child, this has led to a great deal of depletion in energy and enthusiasm, as an adolescent, it made me feel victimized and left me asking the oh so popular question: Why me?, but as an adult, I have come to terms with the fact that my struggles were a mere necessity for my being and sculpturing.

Several attempts have been made in the past to cure this poisonous and ongoing dilemma of mine. Yet, for a very long time I’d refused to take that helping hand, blindly believing in the ability of my inner strength to guide me to my safe haven. Now that’s what I call being stubborn. I chose the difficult way, even though the answer to all my problems was right before my eyes. God.

My religion, faith and belief in the greater, influential power of God and the Holy Quran have not only taught me to come to peace with my former troubles and passiveness, it has taught me to fight viciously for my peace of mind. It has taught me not to accept those unfortunate moments and events, but rather to be thankful and appreciative for having them in my life as they have enlightened me and provided me with strength and solidity. One of my favorite insightful verses of the Holy Quran, if I may, is:

(لا يكلف الله نفسا إلا وسعها لها ما كسبت و عليها ما اكتسبت ربنا لا تؤاخذنا إن نسينا أو أخطئنا ربنا و لا تحمل علينا إصرا كما حملته على الذين من قبلنا ربنا و لا تحملنا ما لا طاقة لنا به و اعف عنا و اغفر لنا و ارحمنا أنت مولانا فانصرنا على القوم الكافرين)

Finally, I’d like to conclude by stating that even though life is not fair,all those injustices will have to be dealt with one way or another. After all life is a theater of war, you will win some battles and you will lose many more. So enjoy every single minute of the journey.

I wish you acceptance, solidity and grace during your fight for life.
Jeddah - 3/2/2011


  1. Such a wonderful piece....It's written by an amazing warrior who might have lost some battles but is definitely planning to win the war.

    I've only known you for five years but in that short time i have watched your transition from that sixteen year old girl who was confused and had so many unanswered questions to this graceful young lady who pretty much has a handle on life. I admire your courage, strength and your ability to change whatever negative situation you are in into a positive experience. And that my dear friend is the true meaning of a warrior. I'm so blessed to have crossed paths with you and I'm so proud of you. You are destined for greatness my dear...:)

    We have to thank God that life is difficult. If it were easy we wouldn't have had the chance to change, learn, rise above ourselves and become better individuals.

    I wish you luck and victory in all your upcoming battles. I'll be there right by your side to lend you a hand whenever you need it. And I'm glad i have a warrior as a friend to help me out whenever i need it during my fight for life.

    I love you and your family to bits. Allah ye7fazkom we y5aleekom liba3ad.

    p.s: No, i am not biased because you are my best friend/sister. You truly are an amazing person and anyone who thinks otherwise is just jealous. Mwah.

  2. Zain … I don’t know what to say, I’m speechless. I’m really thankful to have crossed paths with a beautiful person inside out at a time when I thought such individuals were non-existent. Your friendship has been a major pillar in this transformation my dear. Thank you not only for your words, but also for a friendship that’s extremely rare these days. Allah la yefaregna 3an ba3d.

  3. I do believe that life is always fair , somtimes we see the opposite but at the end life is just fair for every one . Cuz we have this faith in our Islamic background(وهم لا يظلمون )we see it many times mentioned in the holy Quran
    At the end I want to say that it's really good and u have a talent in expressing ur ideas just like ur brother , keep going

  4. I totally agree with you. God is the fairest jude amongst all judges, but unfortunately as humans we fail to understand that all the disappointments and failures in life are necessary for our being.
    Thank you for your comment.

  5. Life is a "theatre of wars"
    Doesn`t the word theatre implies that not all what we see is real? Don`t u think?
    That all is a play in a way?
    Shakespeare actually said that
    "All the world`s a stage,
    And all the men and women merely players"

    Using Battle & war to describe life is not entirely unfair -not with the current mad & messy state of the world anyway!
    & yes the words could be hostile & barbaric
    I`d call it "civilized barbarism" or "barbaric civility"
    We think we have reached an age of true civilizem but we r totally wrong!